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                walk-away

 
Walkaway is a very important coping stratergy for anger, self frustration, moodyness, being stuck in a task and start to stress over it, loosing coversations, not coping at that time. The list goes on etc etc. but why its so important for me to walk away is by doing that I started the very first step to regaining control  of myself and when I walk away its to my Safe Place. Now theres are key stratergies for controling situations and emotional states in me at the time I walk away. 

     a... Caregiver / family / Friends. Don`t be offended if I get up and go without saying anything to anyone ok Respect that I need my space to refocas or rest. I don`t have the energy or the initational skills to aways explain why I leaving. I maybe starting to flood with thoughts etc. I may ask for my caregiver to come with me or my caregiver may think theres a need to be with me at that time, use the right judgement for the situation. Family / friends don`t follow me when I walk-away to my safe place
I need my space you will more likely add to my stress of that time and I will end up telling you to fuck off and leave me bee. I  AM NOT COPING WITH WHAT EVER AT THAT TIME UNDERSTAND THAT RESPECT THAT.

    b.. Anger managment stratergies for walking away.
        Flashpoint Anger when this occurs and I in a raving rage I just go and walkaway outside do a task which might one of these listed below. But first understand why I need to do this task, remember in the anger page i talked about adrenaline and how this was the bodies fuel for anger, well its so important that I use up that fuel when flash point anger occurs. To start with my caregiver helped me till I to relearn these tasks at home . BUT I still NOT learned or know key stratergies for when i am out in the public places.  
       .Ok to calm myself the fastes why its to burn of the excess adrenaline in my muscles and to do this I have these stratergies. Taking deep breaths for a short time helps too.
Walk it out of my system for ten minutes. yes i just keep walking for ten minutes and this burns of the adrenaline and I calm down.
Go into my garden and my garden and take my anger out by digging a new area over. If you don`t have a garden dig a hole for ten minutes and next time you angry fill it in and start digging another where that heep was. Again burn off the adrenaline !! leaving it in the muscles fuels more anger / anxiety etc. Note when I real angry and dig in the garden I normally end up with with a sore back and head.

   c.. Milder anger , frustration , anxiety first signs of rising stress etc. a walk in the the garden or swinging of arms etc things like that will burn of the little bit of built up adrenaline.

Ok following  walkaway and calming down proccess its time to go to my safe place to refocus my thoughts and maybe rest. Its important not to return at that stage to where / what caused the problem ok.. Understand that or it will happen again straight away but , with a much more worse side effect..

Once in your safe place you can do relaxation, changing of thoughts etc etc.  related links are.

              Safe-place                                   click

              Changing of thoughts                     click

              Relaxation                                    click

              working with the flow of thing       click

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